Housewife, hausfrau, homemaker, home exec, mum, soccer mom, urban slave, family chauffeur, general dogsbody … the gainfully UNemployed. However I frame it, I’m often ashamed to admit that I am one, or all, of these things.
Ashamed! I can almost hear the collective sound of clichés rushing into my ears.
I mustn’t belittle my vitally important role in life. There’s nothing more fulfilling than bringing up a family. I’m fortunate that I don’t have to work for peanuts. And they’re absolutely right. I do find being a mother fulfilling and I do work for less than peanuts.
No seriously then, you may want to know why I am ashamed to admit that I choose to be a stay-at-home mum. Well it’s partly because the conversation inevitably reaches the same awkward question: “But what do you do all day?” Or worse, “You’re just the person I need. Someone with time on their hands to…”
But more importantly, I find myself wondering where in all this is my sense of self-worth? It is not really enough to live for my husband, children, relatives and home. What happens if someone pulls the marital rug from under you and you suddenly find yourself with no purpose in life. Whether because of divorce, death or simply the kids growing up and moving away – inevitably I know I need to rediscover myself and my reason for living.
Writing is something I do by myself for myself. I hope to entertain, inform and inspire others who read what I write, but first and foremost, my writing is my way of being me and expressing me. That’s the me that I was before I became a mother and a wife and a mortgaged home-owner.
This blog began as a “learn from my fail” diary, but it is evolving to become less rigid. I now write about whatever I feel like. Sometimes it comes from a question someone asks me, or it is inspired by my novel writing. If the blog resonates with you, then please comment and I’ll endeavour to write about those things you like best.
From time to time, I’ll also keep you posted on the progress of my latest manuscript. It’s a fictional biography about love, war, infidelity and adoption.